We had a death in the facility, this morning, not unusual, given this is a nursing home- except that the death was that of a relatively young person (in his fifties). Deaths of younger people I know always lead me to ponder my own mortality. As it is, I had already labeled this year’s journal as Notes On My Way Out.
In some ways, Larry’s death was not a total surprise; he’s abused his system with drugs and alcohol since his teenage years. This abuse led to other felonies and prison time. However, the who I knew was a good person. He certainly didn’t seem to have any of the anger and callosity of a person who’d served hard time.
In another time and under other circumstances, (circumstances including age differences and sexuality) he’d have been a relationship possibility. He was on the burly side, with a tendency towards heavy. Not unattractive, but his persona was more More a comfortable than “sexy”. Besides, being a ridiculously thin person, myself, I’ve always liked a little meat on a man’s bones; nothing beats a little warm cuddle in the Chicago winters.
He had an easy laugh and just the right amount of sarcasm towards daily life, but a gentle way in dealing with others. He had patience and forbearance to lend. We might have proved to be a complementary union.
I did not mean for this to turn into a Craigslist entry. It is just that with all these positive qualities ensconced within him, it is difficult to understand the how he happened on the life-path he did. I hope that path was not empty of love.
Actually, I don’t think you could have paid him a higher compliment or tribute. Larry will now be remembered by at least a few of us, as the person you knew, and the possibilities that you saw in him.
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Having worked with prison inmates I understand the whole concept that the person you meet and know differs from their past or how they act around someone else. I guess that is where that stereotypical saying ‘He was such a nice person’ came from when something happens in your area to shock you. People change, growup, whatever. And I am a firm believer that people react to you in how you react to them. The ‘vibrations’, for better want of a word, that you give off towards people is how they react to you.
I’m glad you met him and glad he had a friend in you, even for that short time.
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